Monday, 24 December 2007

Looking back and looking forward

Tag from Darth

Dear *thirteen year old self,

You are full of unflagging optimism that will serve you well in years to come so don’t fret. I know you are concerned that you always expect the best, it’s fine. I want to reassure you that you WILL, eventually, have a feminine body to replace the bony, clumsy, stick-figure that you inhabit at present – you will be pleased – trust me. I fear it will be awhile, so occupy yourself otherwise.

I will not tell you of the tragedies to come lest you try to avoid them, for before the pain comes your life’s happiness. Follow the path you have already chosen as regards love. You do not yet understand the true meaning of that relationship but you will in the fullness of time. Do not let anyone deter you from that path, including Himself.

If I could change one thing for you it would be the instinctive need for secrecy and subterfuge that you are developing due to your enviroment. It will serve you in the short run, but unless you can distance yourself from it now I fear it will become as natural as breathing, and will distance you from the life you desire in later years.

I wish you would relax a bit – you do NOT ALWAYS have to be the best. It’s all right to do your best without pushing yourself to do even better EVERY time. Strive for excellence, yes; but give yourself a break will you?

Don’t worry over the whole ‘family thing’. That will be made clear to you in time, and even though painful – it is without doubt the best way. I know you have begun to wonder and question your situation in the world – just let it lie for now. Trust me.

Don’t go swimming in the firth on your birthday next! The month of pneumonia is not worth winning the dare. Back down for the first time in your life. If you don’t, the lesson of the Seven Samurai will be one that you don’t learn until you are forty!

Relax about your hair! It does not always have to look good, that’s why there are hats and tiebacks. If you don’t relax about it now I can tell you that you are going to spend a good deal of time in your future futzing about it – time you could use to better advantage. Just keep that whole Renaissance Princess theme going…

I wish I could save you from the pain and guilt that is coming but you will survive it, and you will find a different kind of happiness later, but happiness nonetheless. Do not listen to those (none of them Scots by the way) who tell you the “stoic” mindset is a bad one. You hold fast.

As far as I can tell from this vantage you are on the right spiritual road, so stick to that unless we find something that proves us wrong. Continue to be loving and trusting, it may be the harder road but it has great rewards.

Oh yes, would you have some photographs made and put them aside? You have someone in the future who wants to ‘see’ your past. You are a compassionate and loving child. As I look back now I’m glad to have known you. You are funny and relentlessly curious, those are good traits. The talents you don’t’ have you can appreciate in others, you don’t have to be able to do everything. Eat up and get plenty of rest, you have a very full life coming up.

I really want to hear what jmb, Sicily Scene, and Dulwichmum have to say to their thirteen-year-old selves!


Now, for the next two to three weeks I have to be on the road. Something has come up that I must do before Paris. I will do my best and should be able to post something every three days or so. I will not be able to answer comments as I normally do, or do much, if any, visiting. I will find occasion to play catch-up and address all comments. Happy Holidays (whatever holiday you choose, or none) to all!

Ciao


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14 comments:

Sparx said...

Hello Lady M - I quite like these letter thingies, they do open up a window of reference on the past of one's favourite bloggers.

Have a wonderful holiday, even if you HAVE decided against London, harumph! Although I've not been by for a few days, maybe you changed your mind...

All the best for the new year too!

darth sardonic said...

very nice, i dug it.

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

Ciao, Lady M. A quick visit to wish you a wonderful Xmas and I will catch up on your blog tomorrow. [New job has me all over the place with what I'm supposed to be doing and when!] Auguri from Sicily from Simi and me xxx

Colin Campbell said...

Merry Christmas wherever you spend it. All the best for the coming year.

Mopsa said...

All best wishes for 2008.

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

I will think on that, Lady M. Meanwhile, yours is a lovely letter to your 13-year-old self. I don't think I've quite realised what hats and tie-backs are for even today! Happy holidays, wherever you are. Love from Sicily xxxx

Winchester whisperer said...

Merry Christmas to you Lady M

Ian Lidster said...

What an intriguing idea from a person who was just as enchanting at 13 as now.
May your coming year be blessed and happy

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Omega Mum said...

Lovely, Lady M. Happy, happy holidays.

rilly super said...

The trouble is meladyshipness, after listening patiently to your wise advise your thirteen your old self would raise two fingers and say 'am I bovvered?' and then storm off in a huff, well that's what most thirteen year old selfs would do nowadays anyway, sigh

very best wishes for 2008

Ellee Seymour said...

Happy New Year wishes to you Lady M, I look forward to being entertained with more fascinating stories in 2008.

Sparx said...

Happy New Year by the way! I hope you're having a wonderful holiday, see you when you're back!

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

Buon anno 2008, cara Lady M.