Friday, 13 February 2009

very chatty today...

I am feeling very chatty today lovely readers. I'm simply going to go on and on, and perhaps even - on. Read until you are bored, come back later or just wish me well. I shall be adding on pieces all morning I believe - it's so much less expensive than psychiatric therapy and I truthfully have never thought I could trust those people - but that's just ME. I know they do much good for many people.

13 February 2009

A few days ago I received an email “Maya Angelou’s best poem”, and it was grand. Being a Maya Angelou fan, but also an intrepid attempter (not a word but you get it) of always giving my readers the correct facts – I looked up the history of the poem – it follows with a note from the true author. It’s just as good even though Ms. Angelou didn’t write it.

I would add the comment that one can insert “by the time she is 30,40, 50, 60”, keep trying…

30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30
This 1997 Glamour article has become a popular web chain letter, usually titled “Maya Angelou’s Best Poem Ever.” Glamour contributor Pamela Redmond Satran is flattered, but she wrote the list, updating it in 2005.
February 1, 2007
Pamela Redmond Satran

In May of 1997, I wrote this list. I had passed my thirtieth birthday and wanted to tell younger women about the things I really wished I’d had and known by that important milestone. I guess people agreed with what I had to say, because a few years later the list showed up in my e-mail inbox; a friend had forwarded it to me for my reading pleasure, completely unaware that I was the author. After that, every month or two someone would send it to me and I’d immediately hit “reply all” and type, “Hey, that was me! I wrote that for Glamour.” (After a while, I don’t think anyone believed me.) The list became a phenomenon; posted on hundreds of websites, it was attributed to everyone from Jesse Jackson to Maya Angelou to Hillary Clinton. Someone even published it as an anonymously written book. As I read over these lines now, so many of them still seem worth having and knowing—whether you’re 30 or 22 or 75. Being a little older and a little wiser, I’ve plugged in a few new “shoulds.” By all means, add some of your own.
By 30, you should have:
One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
A youth you’re content to move beyond.
A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
The belief that you deserve it.
A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know:
How to fall in love without losing yourself.
How you feel about having kids.
How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
When to try harder and when to walk away.
How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
How to take control of your own birthday.
That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
Why they say life begins at 30.

“Thanks, Crickett. Glad you did the research. If you'd like to use it on your blog, please credit me as the author and include a link to my website, and please also credit Glamour magazine as the original publisher and include a copyright mark for Glamour Magazine (okay I don't know how to do that). Thank you.”

1300hrs local time Houston, usa The Thyroid biopsy is NEGATIVE!!!!!!!!!! Huzzah! One down, one to go...


Sparx said...

Oh, good news on the thyroid, fab. Nice to know the real author of the list, I've also seen it several times before - hope all's well!

Ian Lidster said...

Such a fine list. I'm impressed by its brilliance and it should be a must read for all young females. I love the reference to the meaning of the kiss. Excellent.

And, a Valentine's kiss for you. May all go well for you.

Gary said...

I prayed in a Shakespearean way..."out damn spot!!!" And it worked. And now Lady MacBeth will get "...tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow..."!

Congratulations, Crickett! I'm VERY happy.

Coming2Terms said...

SOOOOO very glad to hear that the biopsy was negative. What an awful series of doctor/medical consults.

Certainly some good food for thought here in this post.

Off to enjoy my day off. Happy President's Day!

wakeupandsmellthecoffee said...

Great news about the biopsy. And I love this post. Timeless advice.

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

All good advice in your list. Glad the thyroid biopsy is negative. Rooting for you on the others.

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